I’ve always been a deep thinker.
I’m very curious about why people act a certain way or do certain things . . AND how this can change depending on who they’re with.
I notice certain people give off the illusion that they’re happy . . optimistic . . never a bad thing to say about anybody . .
What’s the issue ?? This only really lasts for a couple of minutes every few hours of the day. When they’re around people.
But when they’re faced on their own, with their own problems . . and it’s SMACK BANG in their face . . they fall.
There’s NO WAY that you can develop a positive outlook on life FORCING yourself to be happy or FORCING yourself to think positively just because it’s the “right thing” to do.
Blind optimism is not only naive, but its a disservice to yourself.
A few cliche “daily quotes” sent to your work inbox everyday is not going to cut it.
Sure, it may make you feel good for 2 seconds, but the day is made up of 24 hours.
You need to know WHY you get sad . . WHY you get angry . . WHY you get negative . . and usually it’s associated with something external of yourself . .
When you link the world and other people to your OWN happiness over weeks . . months . . years . . decades . . that shit builds up and GRINDS YOU TO THE GROUND.
Before you know it, it becomes an automated, unquestioned, unconsidered, FIXED, no choice, way of responding to the people and the world around you.
Only you have the power to make yourself optimistic, happy.
NOONE can do it for you . . no matter how much you think they can . . how much they make you smile . . how much they can offer you . . it always comes back to the relationship you have with yourself.
It doesn’t matter how you are when you’re around other people, it matters how you are when you’re around YOURSELF.
If you’re happy with YOURSELF . . that exudes from the inside out.